This is just a rant that you should disregard completely. So my best friend, Jocelyn, asked me to go to her school dance with her, her boyfriend Jamie, Jamie’s little brother Tyler, Tyler’s friend Jason and Jason’s date… don;t remember her name. Right before we all got the typical pre-dance pictures taken, Jocelyn and her dad started teasing me by referring to Tyler as my date. I just kind of laughed it off and didn’t take it too seriously. For this rant to make sense, I have to say that Tyler is overweight not what society considers “good looking”. Not that I cared, I just treated him with the same politeness as I would anyone else that I had only met once or twice. But then when we were taking the pictures, Tyler and Jamie’s dad asked me and Tyler to stand together for a picture. Ummm, what the fuck? I’ve met this kid like twice, and I am not his date. I didn’t want to be rude so even though it made me uncomfortable, I did it. Then we got to the restaraunt. We had chosen to go to this pub downtown because we liked their fried pickles. This was the kind of place that probably wasn’t used to obnoxious teenagers, which is exactly what Tyler and his friend acted like. They were loud and very rude to our waitress, then didn’t even leave a tip as we were leaving. That kind of stuff pisses me off, I wouldn’t even want to be friends with someone who acts like that. Then we got to the dance and just stood around talking with some other people during the fast songs, then a slow song came on. Jocelyn went to dance with Jamie, and they both joked that I could dance with Tyler. He took it seriously and was like expecting me to dance with him. With everyone in our little group looking at me I couldn’t just say no. Then after the song was over, another slow one came on but I kinda walked away. Then Tyler made this pouty face and everyone was like “Aww Madi look” which made me feel obligated to dance with him again. Then for the rest of the night whenever a slow song came on he just walked up to me like I owed him a dance. It made me uncomfortable, having to be that close and have someone touching me that I really didn’t want touching me. When we got home, Jocelyn’s dad asked me “So did you dance with Tylerrrrrr? How was it?”. I could tell he was joking but I still felt like I had to say something really vague and not be rude.
What exactly pisses me off is that I had actually acted on impulse, done what I wanted, I would’ve been considered rude or a bitch. “Oh you don’t want to dance with him? Wow it’s because of his size isn’t it, how judgemental of you”. I had already decided that I didn’t even want to be friends with this kid, how is it fair that I was pressured into acting like his date the entire night even though it made me extremely uncomfortable? Are my feelings less important than his?
i have no interest in small talk tell me about ur childhood and what ur parents are like and how many siblings u have and if u are afraid of death or if u believe in an afterlife and what ur favorite movie is and if u like romantic comedies or horror movies or action movies and what kind of music u like and why and tell me the bands or artists u loved in middle school but are too ashamed to admit to anyone else
Holy shit yes
Ok sorry I’m being basic but…
-doesn’t have to like my friends and family, but needs to be pleasant toward them
-likes the same kind of music as me
-respects his mother
-has a job
-will treat me with respect
-doesn’t need to go out every single night
-is my friend too
The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what we share with someone else when we’re uncool.
That fantastic rant on being uncool by Lester Bangs as portrayed by Philip Seymour Hoffman in Cameron Crowe’s Almost Famous.